After a loud crash from upstairs I can recall one of my daughters yelling, “It’s not my fault!” This deflection of blame usually occurred before I even know what happened or before I ever had an opportunity to raise my voice. All that was important to my girls at that time in their life is that they were not held accountable for anything that might be wrong.
The more I study people in work situations, the more I realize that people never really grow up – they just grow older. Often the things we reprimand our children for are the same things we struggle with as adults. Being accountable is certainly at the top of the list. Why should you be accountable? In the words of your parents, “because I said so, that’s why!”
How many of you feel at least somewhat responsible for some of the problems at your place of work? I’m sure some of you do – at least sometimes. More often you probably feel the problems you experience are the result of your boss, your customers or the random assortment of people who work with you. You aren’t that one that’s too lazy, complaining, underachieving, overachieving or causing problems in general – you are the epitome of all things that are good!
Sometimes the people around you can be the cause of daily difficulties. But if we convince ourselves that everyone and everything (besides ourselves) is the cause of our problems – and never hold ourselves accountable, we will never give ourselves the opportunity to be introspective and grow professionally or personally.
Why do you think water coolers have become unofficial meeting rooms? It’s not because everyone loves water so much. People love water coolers because they became a primal watering hole of humanity where people can whine and moan about the people, procedures and policies in your company that make things so bad. It is around the water cooler where people can fan the flames of discontent. If you’re not careful, you’ll be standing around the water cooler of life complaining for all of eternity. It’s an endless cycle that becomes very difficult to break. So break it now!
If nothing else, don’t join the parade of complainers and start being accountable for yourself and improve things when and where you can. All you have to do is change the way think and good things will start to happen. What have you got to lose? And as my mom always says, “try it, you might like it.” She just might be right.